Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Hi all

The letters, emails, phone calls, and cards of support are wonderful. By Monday I will be loading and posting everything to date. I have been neglecting the blog as Kristin has missed 4 visits in a row. I have been spending all my down time preparing for court. Please say a prayer, I am going for custody. I am proposing custody for me with generous visitation for Kristin. The kids need both of us.
All Kristin had to do was comply with the agreements: Regular visitation was all I ever asked for.
Merry Christmas (belated) and have a safe and happy New Year.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Response

Folks, I really appreciate the support and I understand Kristin's blog raises tons of questions. I really want this blog to be just about facts with actual court documents.
Please let me make this clear: Kristin's tactic is simple throw everything and anything at the wall and see what sticks. Look at the post you all are referencing. She claims I sent her something that says I make over $200k per year. Then she says that I would be paying her $8000/week in support as if it is fact. Folks do the math. $8000 per week x 52 weeks = $416,000 per year in support! Yet I have had over 100 emails asking why I would tell her how much I make. So lets clear this up now:

1. I never emailed Kristin
2. I never sent, emailed, wrote, called, used smoke signals, etc on any of the BS that is on these posts.
3. Everything, including my financial affidavits are a matter of public record. The freedom of information act gives anyone the right to anything on my blog. Notice Kristin's blog is just her opinion, reality, propaganda, or whatever you wish to call it.
4. I am loading the docs as quick as I can. I have everything scanned. But it takes forever to post the pages (so you can actually see the writing).
5. Yes, I have filed multiple lawsuits for slander, libel, and defamation.

So please be patient with me on getting the docs on the blog. Please look at the fact that her blog is designed to "Wow" you into indignation. But look at it logically. She puts just enough truth to make it believable (yes we were in court Friday, other than that...). Then adds her own colorful twist to make herself look like the victim. In her world I have to be the "Evil" one to get all of her followers to rally to her cause. It is called control. Hitler, Stalin and every master manipulator does one thing first; control the information to gain control of the publics hearts and minds. I will ONLY post the court documents. You decide from that.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Update on Friday's hearing

Hi all,

I will post the court ruling as soon as I get the written version. Kristin was found in contempt of court (again). My attorney filed a motion against Kristin for fee's he was awarded for the 4 day trial in June/July. $15,000!!!! I had to fill out an affidavit and have my employer sign it for my missed wages I was awarded as well (a whole $632).

If you read 11 on my own blog and then see the actual ruling I think you will find the difference enlightening.
This weeks posts will include:

-The judgement from the trial (51 pages).
-The ruling from Friday.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Response to reader

I thank you for your question. I am dedicated on this blog to only put forward the facts with as little opinion as possible. I will, however, answer your question as it is the basis of everything that has happened:

The entire reason Kristin and I had issues had nothing to do with money, intimacy, lust, greed, another woman.

Kristin and I started dating in January of 1994. In April of 1994 we were intimate (I hope my kids don't read this, embarrassing to a Catholic Dad). I know it is no excuse but I fell in love with her very quickly and her boys from her previous 2 marriages. Kristin and I were married in October 1994. My first Daughter Courtney was born 12/5/1994.  My little "doodle" (my pet name for her) is the reason I fell in love with the idea of having so many kids in the first place!

My ex wife's 2nd ex husband, Eric Molitoris, sued for paternity of Courtney 10 years later. We fought him tooth and nail. We scraped together any funds we could and even went into debt fighting him. I "hated" him (don't judge please, God gives you challenges like this for a reason) for even suggestion this beautiful girl who would only sleep on daddy's chest as an infant was his.

We won, however, the judge did not say I was the father only the "known" parent. The DNA tests were thrown out by Kristin's attorney. In October 2006 I contacted the company who conducted the DNA test. Eric was continuing to tell people he was her father and I was determined to stop it once and for all. I did this without Kristin's knowledge. When I got the test results my life was shattered. It showed I was not the father. I died inside. I could not believe that Kristin had slept with Eric while we were engaged and knew (hid) for 12 years that Courtney was not my biological child. Had prevented her biological Dad from knowing she was his. Worst of all was my "Catholic" wife whom I had built the perfect life with had lied to everyone and me! (I love my Courtney, always have, always will!)

When I confronted Kristin, her response was; "So, we have had 8 other children". I lost it, I went into a severe depression. I went to counseling with a priest. Kristin reluctantly went with me 1 time. She even screamed at Monsignor West that she had done nothing wrong. It was then that Msgr. West instructed me on our one on one sessions to move out for 2 weeks and go and live with my Dad. This would give us the space needed so Kristin would take me seriously and actually work on our relationship. Kristin filed for divorce within the 2 weeks. I was suddenly without a home of my own, was prevented from seeing my own kids, and even my own spiritual counselor could not get through to her!

I hope this answers your question.

Pictures

There are pictures on the 11on my own blog. Please be assured anyone can find a picture on the internet and put it on a blog. Although a very nice picture, it is not me or anyone I know. I remind you of my commitment, only the facts. Read the actual documents and judge for yourselves.

Update

Hi all, below is the first of 1000's of docs I am uploading. I am trying to give you the most recent first. There is a court date for these 2 motions on Friday 11/12 at 2pm. I will post the judges ruling over the weekend.

GAL's 2nd motion

Gal Motions next page


Gal Motions

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Contact information

Almost forgot to give you all my information. Full disclosure of who I am. I am the father of Ian (adopted), Derek (adopted), Courtey, Brandon, Connor, Cassidy, Liam, Trinity, Jordan, and Dominic Bothur. I am the ex husband of Kristin (Luscia) Bothur. I am the subject of the book, blog, etc.

Me

Thomas John Bothur Jr.
153D Tudor Lane
Manchester, CT 06042

Email: Bothurcorp@yahoo.com

That way there is no confusion. I have seen comments on Kristin's blog. Then responses to those comments assuming they are from me. They are not. I have actually tried to share comments on her blog and she has refused to allow them to be published. My goal is complete clarity on this blog.

Hi and welcome

I know it has been a long time coming, however, I wanted to have all my ducks in a row. I want to thank Dennis Gac from the National Association of Father's Rights for his assistance.
This blog is brand new and will be for 1 purpose only: To Give the the Truth.

If you have followed the 11 on my own blog, read the book, or listened to the radio/tv this blog is for you. I will give no opinions. My feelings are my own. No music will be playing. Just the facts in the form of actual court records. Although not as colorful as Kristin Bothur's blog, I think you will be surprised to learn the real story.

My intention is to tell you a story. The story of a man fighting hard to have a relationship with his children.

Remember these fact as you read the posts that will follow shortly:
-I LOVE all of my children. Ian, Derek, Courtney, Brandon, Connor, Cassidy, Liam, Trinity, Jordan, and Dominic.
-The real pain of not seeing your kids (or seeing them a few times then having thier mom just not show up for multiple visits) is like losing them over and over again. 
-I never abondoned my family. Once you read the reports you will see I have been fighting ($100,000 in legal fee's so far) tooth and nail just to see my children since 2007.
-All of the false allegations (arrests) were not only dismissed, but the arrests were expounged from my record.
-I am the defendant in court. I never started dating anyone until many months AFTER Kristin filed for divorce.
-I am a Roman Catholic. A scapular wearing (from my daughter Courtney), Rosary Praying, Mass loving Roman Catholic. Did I mention I am a HUGE fan of St. Demontfort. I am a slave of Our Lord in Our Lady. (Sorry folks I will not try to convert you or preach to you).
-I know for a fact our Faith and Our Lord teaches us to love one another. That children are to love and respect BOTH parents. Teaching hate is wrong!!!! Leading others to hate is wrong.
-I am not an English major. Just a human being. You will not be impressed with my skills as a writer.
-I am confident that Kristin will never acknowledge or agree with anything (despite the actual records being used) on this blog.
-Everthing I am posting is available to you from the court in Rockville, CT, Support Enforcement, or at the State Police Barracks under the Freedom of Information Act.
-I will never badmouth or slander any court officer, attorney, or my ex wife. My kids may see this, and I will not do the very thing I am fighting against.

I will not influence your opinions. See the facts and judge for yourselves. Please be patient with me. I work a lot of hours and have no clue on how long it takes to scan and post the 1000's of pages of documents.